Why do people find it difficult to talk openly about sexuality?
Or only talk about it in hushed voices?
What I have witnessed in myself and others is that it is not about the topic of the conversation, it is about feeling connected with another person no matter the subject.
When a topic is laced with shame, negative experiences or pressure it can become tough to talk about unless we have the quality of relationship which allows for us to feel safe, accepted and held.
What I have discovered is the conversation tends to lean into discussing relationship and connection. How not being able to have open and honest conversations about sexuality impacts the quality of the relationship.
From my observations it is the inability to communicate and talk through the topic or experience and be with the big feelings which may arise. This is what causes the feeling of disconnection and stress in any relationship, the lack of skills to be with and communicate what we are feeling and feel safe doing so.
There is so much beauty in our sexual expression. I see in people a softness, an aliveness and a greater sense of wellbeing when they can gently open and have accepting honest conversations about sex and relationships.
We can only start to find each other when we have the possibility to build connection and feel connected…
It is not about being able to have conversations about sex, it is about being able to stay connected or find your way back to connection no matter the topic, situation or experience.
Noticing and sharing what you are feeling is important. It is important when you are sharing about your day and it is important when you are making love.
Do you speak to your children, your partners or friends about sex, pleasure, the beauty and the challenges?
Are you having conversations which are honest open and supporting of each other?
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We are looking for people who are ready to make changes and who are willing to do hard work and maybe get a little uncomfortable in order to make them.
Having said that this is not so serious that we cannot have a lot of fun in the process.